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“There is so Pleasures with your mate is not required, if that is what you choose and your mate does not object, but most men will object Most men will not stay with a woh you are preparing to tie the knot and ine it now, the knot can also be severed, for many reasons I’m sure you all know someone who severed the knot with a mate”
There was so around Most everyone did know soer with
“It has been said that women cantheiven to Her children for that reason That h not the only reason, I’m sure But it is true that your mate will not be as tempted to look with Pleasure upon other women if you satisfy his desires He will be happy to save those fleeting moments of interest in someone else for ceremonies that honor the Mother, when it is acceptable, and pleasing to Her when Pleasures are shared
“But reh it can be a welcome diversion, anyone can accept, or reject, any offer to share the Mother’s Gift Sharing Pleasures with someone else is also not required If you and your mate are happy and joyfully share Her Gift with just each other, the Mother is pleased It is also riot required to wait for a Mother Cere about Pleasures is required It is a Gift from the Mother, and all Her children are free to share it homever they like whenever they wish Neither you nor yourdiversions Jealousy is far worse Jealousy can have terrible repercussions Jealousy can cause violence, and violence can lead to death If soe by the loved ones of the person who died, and hting Anything that threatens the well-being of the children of the Mother ere chosen to know Her is not acceptable
“The Zelandonii are a strong people because they work together and help each other The Great Earth Mother has provided everything that we need to live Whatever is hunted or gathered is given to us by Doni and in turn should be shared by everyone Because accepting what She offers can be hard work and even dangerous, those who give reatest respect That is why the best providers and those who are willing to work for Her children have the highest status That is why leaders are so respected They are willing to help their people If they were not, people would no longer turn to theed as the leader” She didn’t add that it was also the reason that the zelandonia had such high status
Zelandoni was a powerful speaker, and Ayla was listening with rapt attention She wanted to learn as much as she could about the people of the man she was soon to ht about it, the Clan were not so different They also shared everything, and no one went hungry, not even that woman she was told about who died in the earthquake She had come from another clan, never had children, and after her mate died, she had to be taken as a second woh she had the lowest status of anyone in Brun’s clan, she never went hungry and always had war
The Clan knew all those things, they didn’t have to express it ords The people of the Clan were not as full of words as the Others Mates were shared, too They understood about relieving a man’s ne
eds No Clan wonal She didn’t know anyone who even thought of refusing … except her But she kne that what Broud wanted was not Pleasures She even knew it then, though she couldn’t express it He didn’t give her the signal because he wanted to share the Gift or to relieve his needs, he did it only because he knew she hated it
“Re, “it is your mate who must help you and provide for you and your children, especially when you are heavy with child, or have just given birth and are nursing If you care about him, if you have shared Pleasures with him often and kept him reasonably content, most men are more than happy to provide for their ine why I should ly Ask your mothers When you are busy and tired with many children, there may come a time when the Gift is not so easy to share And there are times when it should not be shared, but I’ll talk about that later
“Doni is always more pleased and smiles with favor on those children who bear some resemblance to your mate Mates, too, often feel closer to those children If you want your children to reseether so it will be his spirit that will be the easiest to be selected The ways of the spirits are willful There is no way to tell when one will decide to allow itself to be chosen, or when the Mother will decide it is time to blend them But if you enjoy each other and are pleased with each other, your mate ant to stay with you, and his spirit will be happy to join with yours Does everyone understand so far? If you have questions, now is the ti around and waiting
“But, what if I get sick or so, and can’t feel any Pleasure in the Gift?” a woman asked Others turned to look to see who had asked
“Yourof that, and it is always your choice in any case There are some who are mated and seldom share the Gift with each other If you are kind and understanding of your mate, he will usually be the saet sick, and usually it’s their mates who care for them Most mates will try to care for you when you are sick, too”
The young woman nodded and smiled rather tentatively
“What I’ is that couples should have consideration and show kindness and respect for each other The Gift of Pleasure can bring happiness to both of you and help to make your mate feel happy and contented, so the union will last Any other questions?” The First waited to see if anyone else had any more questions, then continued
“But ether It involves your kin, your Cave, and the world of the spirits as well That is why mothers and their mates consider carefully before they allow their children to mate With ill you live? Will you or your mate be a worthy addition to the Cave you live with? Your feelings for each other are also i, the union may not last If the union does not last, the responsibility for any children usually falls to the mother’s kin and Cave, as it does if both of you should die”